Some of our Biggest Lessons Come from our biggest losses
This is likely not a new saying and not a new sentiment. But how very true it its.
I have learned so many lessons in the past few years. Many of those lessons I have shared here, or on my instagram site, and with friends and family. Of course, there are those lessons that are too private to share. (even for me, a self professed over-sharer!)
One of the best and biggest lessons I know for sure, is that whatever type of loss one has, and it can be the loss of a loved one, a dear friend, a spouse, the loss of a marriage, a dream, or the plan you had for your life, if the type of loss you have had brings about anger, bitterness or confusion, it does one absolutely no good to hold onto those things. At some point you have to let go of those emotions and feelings and embrace where you are, the season you are in and the big and beautiful life you have that is there for you, waiting for you to take hold and move forward.
You owe that, not only to yourself and the creator who gifted you with this beautiful life, but also to the person, or thing or life, you once had an experience with that was positive and good. Simply because that person, or thing or dream is no longer with you or a part of you, doesn’t mean that you have lost that part of your life. You still have all the memories, experiences and shared time, whether good or bad, and you will always have that part of your life that will be with you. It part of who you are and part of your story.
I was recently talking about this at dinner with a friend who, unfortunately, had a loss in her life very similar to one of mine. We spoke about some of the other lessons and how our perspective on so many things has changed. We spoke about grasping true empathy and gaining the strength and resilience that can only come from experiencing hard things and navigating the pain that comes from losses.
I could never say I am thankful for the loss, or losses, but I can say that I am thankful that I have been able to be open to new emotions, new thoughts, and new ways at looking at how our lives evolve. I am thankful I have learned to let go of so many of the negative emotions and am better able to connect with others, and continue to learn, grow and move forward.
I would love to hear yours. . . 💚