It has been a hum dinger of a busy week over here. So much so that I just today remembered that Mother’s Day is this Sunday. This weekend is also graduation weekend for the Second Son. If you have ever had a graduate you know that there is stuff crammed into every single bit of free space during the week leading up to the actual day. So, there’s that going on. On Monday the First Son had shoulder surgery. That same afternoon we learned that the Second Son, the graduate, had a broken hand that required surgery today. So, there’s also that going on. Take that with some other “stuff” that found its way into our week, and I will admit that a couple of times during the week I felt as if my head might explode. Thankfully, that did not happen. However, it’s during the crazy times like these surgeries, and happy times like graduation, and interesting “stuff” that happens that I always immediately think of sharing with my mom.
This April marked three years without my mom and I can honestly say that I have thought about her every single day. When I find myself doing or saying things like her I am okay – and even a little proud – where I might have cringed in the past. I also find myself extra empathetic and hurt for someone losing their mother. Loss and grief are terrible things. The awfulness does eventually go away, but I’m here to tell you that I don’t think you ever actually get over missing someone.
I have written several things about Mother’s Day on this site. In light of the upcoming day to honor all mothers and mother figures, I want to re-visit some of those past posts. (And since my brain has been on overload this week, I haven’t come up with new and creative thoughts to express!)
If you ever get down about your path and think I’m Just a Mom . . . remember There is No Such Thing as Just a Mom!
This week I shared my craziness and drama with my “go to people”. These people are key to have in your life. One of my main go to people had been my mom and she would have been the first person I called. Who Are Your Go to People?
What I truly enjoy is thinking about some of the things I have learned from my mom, whom will always be Mama to me. I posted a list before she passed away and I know that now I could add to that list. Here are some of the things that I think about learning from her.
How to fold fitted sheets
How to keep a drawer organized
How to “work a room” and learn peoples’ names
How you get more with honey than with vinegar
How you should always have lipstick on when you go to town, even if you don’t have a stitch of make-up on
How to clean silver
How to have, serve, preserve and put up fresh vegetables
How to be ladylike, even when you don’t feel like it
How to hug
How to nurse a sick child, bring down a fever, fix a skinned knee
How to be really strong when things get really bad
How to always smile
How to pick your battles. (you know, some just aren’t worth it)
How to have good manners
How to re-pot a plant
That babies don’t come with instruction books tattooed on their bottoms. They are all different!
The importance of hard work
How to be really good at helping with school projects, Halloween costumes, pageant routines, dress up days, presentations, craft projects
How important it is to just listen sometimes
How it doesn’t matter if your dress is homemade or inexpensive or not “in”. What matters is IN the dress
That family always comes first
How to stay strong and be a rock when your whole world falls apart
How to be independent and not rely on others
How wonderful books are and how reading can always teach and entertain you
How to always keep a sense of humor
That by the grace of God there go I is an important thing to remember
That you love someone in spite of, not because of
Now that I am also a mother I have learned that my mother truly loved me more than anything in the world. I have also learned that being a mother is a constant learning process. Every day brings a new delight, joy, crisis, heartache, angst, frustration, sweat, joke and belly laugh.
It truly is the best job out there! The hardest job and the most rewarding!
Enjoy Your Day!